Archive for January, 2012

Divorce Workshops

Divorce Support Group continues its series of one day workshops,designed to help you recover from and cope with your divorce or separation.  Our next one is in Holborn, Central London on 25th February 2012.
Whether you are newly separated, or going through the legal process or are already divorced, the Divorce Workshop will give you an opportunity to meet others and share your experiences.  We will help you think about how to move through your painful feelings, feel less stuck and start to think about your future without fear.  
We will also help you think about how to answer your children’s questions about their situation and manage any worries that you may have about them.
The workshops run from 10 am to 3.00pm The cost is £55 including lunch.
For more information go to or to book a place please call 0207 483 1378 or email

Divorcing with Manners?


Next month, Debrett’s, the guide to all things proper, will be publishing it’s Guide to A Civilised Separation. The guide is aimed at helping warring couples remain civil and respectable during the usually acrimonious business of divorce.

Although much of the guide may be common sense, it might be interesting bedtime reading for those who wish that their ex would behave in as civilised a way as they are and may provide useful information and reassurance.  All in all, a pretty picture of what a respectable divorce may look like.   


January Blues

It is said that January is ‘Divorce Month’ when there is a spike in the statistics showing that more petitions are issued in January than at any other time of year.  Why is that?  There is something about the new year that focuses people on decisions that have to be made.  It is not that suddenly people think they might like a divorce and go and see a solicitor, it is more a question of having thought about separation for a long time and feeling unhappy that people suddenly realise that they don’t want to start yet another year in a marriage that doesn’t work.  It is almost impossible to separate before Christmas (although people often find out about affairs before Christmas) and with it out of the way, then people who have been contemplating it for a long time, feel that it is an opportunity for a new start.  It can be confusing to be on the receiving end of a divorce petition in January.  It is confusing for someone who is left to make sense of a nice family Christmas and a good break to then be met with being told that the relationship is over.  People are very good at hiding what they are feeling but it does make one mistrustful of ever knowing what is going on in someone’s head.  Often the person who does the leaving or the breaking up of the relationship has been planning it for a very long time, both by thought and often by deed (finding alternative accomodation or another relationship) and that leaves the person who is left reeling from the shock and having to catch up with events. A January separation gives the term January Blues a whole other depth of meaning.