Archive for January, 2015

New Year Resolutions…

Make a resolution for 2015 to find a new life for you.  It may feel right now, like second best or like you don’t know where to start.  One minute in one day is where you start and take one minute or one hour at a time.  By holding onto hostility or endless thoughts about your ex, you are protecting yourself from moving forward or thinking about that scary unplanned for future.  Let go and face forward, there are opportunities for you there and a place and space just for you.  The unfamiliar is always frightening, but as soon as you inhabit it, it becomes familiar and more comfortable. 

Make a resolution that once a month you will look at one bad point in 2014 as your marker.  Then using that marker, you will see how far you have moved and how much better you feel compared to that point.  You are entitled to feel better and to move through this painful process and come out the other side intact.

Although you may feel you are the only one feeling like this, you are not.  The statistics themselves show that one in 3 marriages end in divorce, you are far from alone.  Sometimes, by holding onto the same lifestyle, you are not acknowledging that when we experience different life events, it means sometimes the old way doesn’t fit any more.  Friends or invitations may fall away and life will feel different. That doesn’t mean you should feel on the outside of things just that you could be on the inside of something else, something that fits better. Resolve to be brave enough to find out what that is.

Make 2015 the year you faced an incredible challenge and overcame it.  Let 2014 go and resolve to do all that you need to, to make 2015 better for yourself.    http://www.web218016.clarahost.co.uk

Can 2015 be a fresh start.

If you have struggled during 2014 to come to terms with your separation, or are starting 2015 newly separated, you may be wondering what the New Year has in store for you.  Is it possible to even think that when one door closes, another may open?  It is often quite important to look at people who you know have been divorced and see how they manage with their lives.  It is rare to find someone who has not been able to build a good life for themselves after separation, once the shock, and the anger has been processed and come to terms with.  When you are in the midst of something really distressing on so many levels, it is hard to imagine that life can ever be different.  Looking at others who have survived and created something good and different for themselves is one way to give you an idea that life can be good again for you too.